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This message really got me, truly I feel for her.

She is one of my blog readers and she needs our advice very urgently.

According to her (Name withheld):

"I really do love him, he's not a bad guy at all. He's just selfish and I'm pretty resentful about a lot of choices he's made.

"I really feel like we're roommates often and we don't share common interest any more. How in the world can I get that butterfly feeling back? Does any long term married couple still have that feeling?

Please all, let's advice her, I believe we have people who have stayed in a long marriage. She is in need of our advice. 

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Use the comment box. She is here to read comments and take a stand.

Zambian Man Kills His Baby Mama And Shoots Their Daughter

Man kills his baby mama and shoots their daughter shortly after she posted on Facebook about moody people​​​​​​​

A 26-year-old Zambian woman and her 2-year-old daughter were both shot last night by her baby daddy minutes after she wrote a post on Facebook about moody people.

Precious Manganisa, 26, had gone to her baby daddy's house in Ibex Hill, Meanwood in Lusaka province, Zambia last night to pick their daughter who she left with him. On getting there, a quarrel allegedly ensued between Precious and 34-year-old Nshinka Kaputo and he shot her and their daughter in the neck. Precious died of her injuries. Luckily, the little girl cheated death and is currently undergoing treatment at a hospital.

Minutes before she was shot, Precious, who was a Multichoice employee, left a post on Facebook which many now say most likely had to do with her baby daddy.

She wrote: "I honestly think moody people are the slow! Literally psychopaths! Y’all just wake up angry at the world like who upset you?"

Zambia Police released a statement today confirming the incident. Zambia Police Spokesperson, Esther Mwaata Katongo, said in the statement that the baby daddy is now in police custody.

The statement reads: " We received a report of murder which happened in Lusaka Province yesterday, 05th October, 2017 at about 2000 hours in Mean wood ibex hill area in which Nshinka Kaputo aged 34 of unknown house number in Mean wood is alleged to have shot dead his girlfriend, Precious Manganisa aged 26 of unknown house number, Lusaka West using a Pistol.

"The victim went to the accused person’s residence to pick her daughter aged two years seven months who was at her father’s residence in Mean wood.

"She sustained a bullet wound on the neck. The scene was visited and a pistol with 10 rounds of ammunition was recovered.

"The baby was also shot in the neck and the projectile was stuck in the neck. It has been extracted by medical personnel at Fairview Hospital.

"The accused person is detained in police custody while the body is lying in UTH mortuary awaiting postmortem."

I found this news very disappointing and very sad after reading it on a South African news website.

A 26-year-old lady, Aviwe Jam Jam has been found dead in Khayelitsha, Cape Town, few months after escaping from her ‘abusive’ boyfriend.

The mother of one, who is suspected to have been beaten to death by her boyfriend was found by her family at the Vygieskraal Stadium, Athlone, 29, 24km from her home.

Aviwe’s aunt, Nondumiso Zizi told reporters that her niece left for Pretoria and asked not to be looked for because she was hiding from her abusive boyfriend of several years and father of her 2-year-old child.

“Aviwe was in an abusive relationship with this boyfriend. Aviwe’s mother tried to warn Aviwe of this, but she wouldn’t listen. She loved [her] boyfriend, so there was nothing we could do about it.”

“Aviwe’s mother suspected that Aviwe won’t come [back] alive because of the way the boyfriend was treating her.”

The deceased’s aunt, further disclosed that Aviwe’s boyfriend came to their home, looking for Aviwe and had assaulted her stepfather with a panga because he thought the family was hiding Aviwe.

“He [the stepfather] was bleeding and the whole yard was full of blood because of them and the boyfriend climbed on top of him and said they should kill him.”

Minister of police, South Africa, Fikile Mbalula on a visit to the deceased’s family urged women to report abuse as soon as possible.

“Women, stand your ground because if you put up with abuse, you are putting up with death.

”He has been arrested for assault and alleged murder,” Mbalula said.

26-year-old Aviwe Jam Jam and her Abusive boyfriend

This kind of news saddens me. I have always advocated for ladies to report abuse, speak out and don't die in silence.

No man that loves you will ever raise his hands on you! Get out of that relationship, he is not yours.

Now, she is dead and the boyfriend walks freely unless the law catches up with him.