Especially for women, marriage is the most important and sacred institution in the world and they do their best to keep it as special, committed and everlasting as they can. And many a times, when they unfortunately find out that their husband cheated, they still for some reason do not walk out of the relationship.
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| 10 Real Reasons Why Women Choose To Stay On With Their Cheating Husbands |
But can we really blame her for doing so? Are we correct to judge? Here are reasons why we should not judge these women and why these women chose to ignore a cheating husband.
(1). They feel that everyone deserves a second chance
And somehow they feel that if they do forgive him and give him a fresh start, he will appreciate this gesture and be a better person. They make themselves believe that he will change.
(2). They are scared
They worry if they leave their husband, where will they go. Sadly, even today, many educated families too do not support their daughters who want to take a stand against a cheating or an abusive husband fearing what the society will think or say. So, can we really blame her for not taking a stand?
(3). They do not want to be a failure
As a person, in front of their families and in love! They want to make things right. They believe that love will make every bad dream fade away, and so, by deciding to forgive their husband they feel or try to feel safe and protected once again.
(4). A low self-worth
Some women feel really under-confident, and have a low self-esteem when it comes to taking care of themselves. They feel they would not be fine on their own, thanks to the male-dominated and orthodox traditional Indian society. All they need is a little push and some motivation to make them realise how strong and self-sufficient they are and any day better off alone than with a cheat!
(5). Because you have children and do not want them to suffer
They feel that their children might not be happy with their decision when they understand it as they grow up. Also, what will the society say, how will they treat them, what rights will the children get if they leave their husband? All these questions clutter their mind and keep them from walking off.
(6). Not very well-educated
Women who are not very well-educated doubt their potential. Because their folks got them married at a relatively young age and they could not finish their education, they fear they will never get a well-paying job that will help sustain them. So, they decide to stay on and hope for things to get better.
(7). Not wanting to be the woman who got dumped
They feel possessive of their husband even though he cheated. And whether they walk out on him or he decides to leave, they do not want to be the woman who got dumped. They want the other woman to suffer.
(8). Finding excuses for him
Because they still cannot believe why this happened to them when they both loved each other so much, they try to find excuses for him. They feel responsible for his actions. They feel that it was because of them, their actions, their appearance or actions that he cheated.
(9). Better the beast you know than the one you don't!
They have spent a long time with their spouse and even though he cheated, they feel that they still know him and so they do not have to fear the unknown or be with someone new after leaving him. It is more convenient and comfortable that way.
(10). A belief that true love still exists
She married him because she loved him and wanted to be with him forever. She does not know what went wrong and what compelled him to cheat. All she knows is that she wants him back, the guy she fell in love with and the guy who will not cheat on her ever again!
All said and done, there is a very slight possibility that he will ever change because- once a cheater, always a cheater. So instead of believing that he will change for the better and doubting your self-worth, get up and take a stand while there is still time. You are young, confident and smart and capable of giving yourself and your kids a comfortable life.
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