Abusive Relationships: 'The Woman Is Stupid For Staying'

-by Jasmine Narin

I read something today that hit close to home and made me feel so blessed for the life I have today. But it breaks my heart that there is so much heartache in this world.

And today I was reminded about abusive relationships.

There is so much stigma out there over "Abusive relationships" and it usually consists of stereotyping men and women, Basically blaming them for their unfortunate situation.

"The woman is stupid for staying"
"The man is an asshole and controlling"

Of course they're really are people out there that want to hurt others.
But in these cases you'll find, That this was never the intention of both partners.

It's heartbreaking for both people who lovingly entered a union together with high hopes.
But then either one of them or both of them lost their way.

They end up hurting the other beyond repair and instead of fixing it or even they do try to fix it. It just gets worse they end up in seperate rooms despising each other wondering where it all went wrong.

I really dislike it when someone judges a relationship that is obviously damaged, adding their two cence to it and making their friend feel stupid or lesser than because they want to stay in a relationship that is hurting them.

I'm not condoning abusive relationships whatsoever but what I don't condone is judging another persons journey.

I am someone who has survived an abusive relationship, the things that happened between us are far to awful to share here, But I will say this.

I do not hate him. I don't deem him a "Horrible person"
He was a good person with a good heart who made horrible decisions.

I forgive him for all the things he did to me because deep down there is someone under all that brokenness that can make a better life and fix himself. And I pray to God sometimes that he helps him do so.

If we could all be just a little more loving, Understanding, Maybe see the bigger picture.

We wouldn't be sitting back and judging each other making someone feel even more worthless than they did in the first place.

And to anyone a man or a woman who is in this situation.
I hope you're ok,

Stay strong, you are loved. You don't have to make any decisions right now. If no one is being patient and kind to you then please do so for yourself.

And please pray hard and meaningfully.
You are not alone.

One day you'll meet someone who will love you, hold you and look at you the way you always dreamed.

It happened for me.

And it will happen for you.

God bless you all

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