As a lady, I have past through abusive relationship, and that is one of the real reason why I set up this blog.
I have come to conclusion that since I suffered such abuses in my previous relationship, then I need to take a precaution and help others on how to solve their own problems in a relationship.
If you have a problem, kindly make it open and let you and your partner discuss it, I have compiled five simple but wisdom ways to handle such conflicts when it arise.
I recently read a post on Readers Digest platform, and I indeed, digested all that I read, I put it to work and it worked for me, I guess it will also works for you.
Below is the five ways to solve problems in a relationship
1). Describe the Problem in a Few Words — and Let Your Partner Respond
This part is extremely important because the opening round in problem-solving involves getting your overview of the issue out on the table. Don’t let it smolder or expect your partner to guess!
Example:
You: “If we go to your parents’ house for the weekend, I won’t be able to get our tax return information together before the workweek starts.”
Your spouse: “My parents have been planning for this visit for months. I don’t think we can or should just cancel.”
2). Decide if you’ve got a problem or just a difference.
If an issue isn’t threatening your health, safety, or financial security, doesn’t work against your shared vision for your marriage, and doesn’t put an unfair burden on you, then it may simply be a sign that the two of you are two different people.
Perhaps you’re an extrovert and love parties, while your partner’s introvert personality makes him or her crave quiet nights at home.
Perhaps you’re great at starting projects, while your partner’s terrific at sticking with it until every last detail is finished. Or maybe one of you is a morning person, the other a night owl. In that case, the solution is acceptance, not trying to change your partner. Look for the ways that your differences are marriage-strengthening assets.
3). Pick the right time.
Problem solving is least likely to work when you’re tired, hungry, overloaded, stressed, distracted, or trying to do something else at the same time, such as making dinner, catching up on work from the office, or relaxing in front of the TV. Save big talks for a better time.
4). Practice loving acceptance.
Learning the art of accepting and valuing your partner for who he or she is — instead of grousing about shortcomings — may actually help the two of you find better solutions to problems, experts say. This loving accommodation melts defenses and motivates us to want to please each other.
5). Give your mate the benefit of the doubt.
The next time you’re feeling disappointed, hurt, or angry with your spouse, pause before jumping to conclusions.
Maybe your spouse is tired, hungry, or preoccupied — or doesn’t see the impact of his or her actions. Search for a benevolent explanation that will allow you to treat your mate with love and respect.
I believe the above five tips will help you solve your relationships problem.
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